Shining a Light on Your Blind Spots - How to Own Your Gifts and Avoid Your Pitfalls

Dec 10, 2019

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If you've ever driven a car, you know what a blind spot is. That blind spot is when you can't see either with your rear view mirror or your side mirror what's behind you. That inability to see can cause an accident because in that just short period of time, someone could be behind you and sideswipe you, or any number of things can happen. So we have to be very careful as drivers.

Now, just in case you've never driven a car, it's important for you to understand that just one second can cause a problem. So that's how it is in driving. But the interesting thing is in our personalities, we can also have blind spots!

I'm Linda Frazee, and I teach a system called the Enneagram. It has nine 'types' and it teaches you very carefully about your blind spots if you choose to listen and become aware of them.

We can't change anything that we're not aware of. And so becoming aware of our blind spots is very important.

Now let's back up a little. There are positive...

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The Inner Enneagram Dynamics of Freedom and Trust

Dec 02, 2019


Most people, when asked, will say that they want more freedom!

Freedom from financial stress. Perhaps freedom from pain - from physical or emotional stress or discomfort if that is in play. And perhaps, there may be a desire for freedom from a relationship.

It's interesting, especially in the United States, people seem to think that everything is greener on the other side of the fence!

'If I just had more money, everything would be okay.'
'If I won the lottery, that would do it right there.'

We have this imagination of things getting better: if I got married, if I had a baby, if I got divorced. Whatever it is, we have a tendency to think that freedom comes from outside of ourselves.

But the truth is you can never feel free with anything outside of you. Even extensive wealth - if you're not free and trusting inside.

There's a very dynamic relationship between freedom and trust, and I want to talk to you about that today.

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My name is Linda Frazee and...

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Aging and the Enneagram: How to Unlock Your Energy

Nov 11, 2019

As you age, your energy changes.

There's no doubt about it. And for some of us, it seems like it's changing even more, than it seems it is for others. Barring any chronic disease, or any drastic kind of physical experience, there is still a reduction in our energy - and how we manage that as we age is a really important thing.

My name is Linda Frazee, and I've been working with people for 40 years to improve their success and their satisfaction with their lives as they are - and possibly, going forward.

And as I grow older, I'm working more with older people. Helping them understand how they can enjoy these last years without so much fear and trepidation.

So let's talk a little bit about that. One of the things that's important to understand is that whatever your model is for aging - that's changed -- a lot! What I mean by that is, it's true, now, 50 is the new 30 and 70 is the new 50!

You know, our lives at this age really has changed from what our grandparent's and...

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Why Do We Resist the Things We Need or Want the Most?

Oct 28, 2019

Hi everybody!

I want to talk about resistance.

I think almost every human being finds themselves sometimes resisting what they NEED to do and even sometimes what we WANT to do! And why is that? It's an interesting thing that we do and almost everyone I know has done it at least at one point in their life and sometimes several times a day.

My name is Linda Frazee and I teach a system called the Enneagram, which is a personality system that helps us understand ourselves at a very deep level. I've been doing this for about 40 years and in that period of time I have seen a lot of people through the years go through some resistance and of course, I've had my own as well.

The Enneagram has nine different personality types in it. And today I'm going to talk to you about how each one of them goes through resistance or how it shows up, I should say.

The first type is a 'One' - and they are the perfectionist. Very often they wait to do things or they resist doing them because they don't think...

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I am Who I Am in Relationships: Accessing Authentic Wisdom Through the Enneagram

Oct 18, 2019

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I am Who I Am in Relationships: Accessing Authentic Wisdom Through the Enneagram

Today, I want to talk about how opposites attract in relationships and sometimes the problems that causes.

You know, it's no secret that if an introvert is in a relationship or romantic relationship with an extrovert, that can cause problems. One person wants to go out when another person wants to stay in.

Sometimes it's the opposite - somebody who likes to save a lot of money where somebody else likes to spend it. Any kind of an opposite when you're dating can seem very charming and interesting - and yet down the road it can be complicated and cause problems.

So what do we do with that?

Well, it doesn't mean that you can't have a relationship with somebody who's got an opposite trait or opposite personality than you. As a matter of fact, you might have noticed that that often happens because it's true that opposites do attract!

I am Linda Frazee. And I have been working with...

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I Am Who I Am: I Don't Wanna Change

Oct 09, 2019

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If I had a dollar for every time someone has said to me, "I am who I am!" And they usually say it with this emphatic voice, like 'whatever you're doing, I'm NOT going to change!'

Now a lot of the time people think that they're being asked of someone around them - 'Oh, that's just a response. Somebody suggested they change or modify their behavior.' It's like 'I am who I am', but the truth is, unless there is an extreme example of being asked to change, most of the time the request is for some softer, smaller change that could enhance the relationship or at work or at home.

My name is Linda Frazee and I've been working with people, individuals, companies, couples - for 40 years, helping them get better with communication and enjoying their lives. Now, I've worked with companies all over the country and these patterns that we get individually and in these invisible patterns that individuals and people have - often result in this attitude like 'I am who I...

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How to Talk to Your Parents About Your Messed Up Childhood

Oct 04, 2019

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As a person learns more about themselves and develops emotionally, it's inevitable that you become aware of the powerful influence of your parents when you were a kid. Since there is no perfect parent and no perfect children, it can be painful to look back at some of the things that happened in childhood and hopefully none of them were physical, but there are inevitable emotional wounds.

Some children 'act out' at the time and so the parents and the caregivers know that they're really in pain or they're in fear or they're angry. But a lot of people, especially little kids, just close down and all those feelings go down inside - because children are trying to get their parents' attention and the love that they want. And they don't want to make waves. They don't want to be causing problems. And so those things can get buried deep inside.

So parents or caregivers, sometimes they don't even know that the child might have some wounds. I often hear from my clients...

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The Enneagram and Relationships

Sep 24, 2019

Have you ever wondered why people do what they do?

Have you ever wondered why you do what you do?

You may have noticed that people are not always predictable, particularly in relationships. Now, there's all kinds of reasons why we as human beings are not always predictable, but it's especially helpful to know yourself well and those you work and live with.

My name is Linda Frazee, and I've been teaching a system called the Enneagram for 30 years. I believe it is currently the best way to dive into your own self knowledge and understand yourself and others. Otherwise you're navigating from your childhood and your past relationship experience. Sometimes that works for you, but other times it really gets in the way.

The Enneagram is this ancient system refined in modern times. Once you find your type in the system, you can use the map it provides to understand why you do what you do and also why others do what they do as well.

Now, even though we know better, we keep...

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The Dam Has Broken on the Enneagram

Sep 17, 2019


If you've recently heard about the enneagram and you've wondered 'what is that?' and 'how is it beneficial?' and 'where did it come from?' I can answer your questions!

I'm Linda Frazee and I've been an Enneagram teacher for 30 years. I now coach it and I teach it professionally and I'm also a trainer.

The Enneagram is an ancient system that's been refined through the ages. On the surface, it might just even look like just any other personality system. But if you look deeper, you can find awarenesses about yourself and about the people you love and work that can amaze you. This new awareness can lead to you taking things a lot less personally and also increasing your ability to feel less criticized by yourself and by anybody. Now why do I say the 'dam has broken' on the Enneagram?

Well, it appears that those of us who've been teaching it for a very long time, 30, 40 years, and those people who've been out practicing all around the world have finally created what's known as a...

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The Value of Vulnerability

Jun 18, 2018

The Value of Vulnerability

I have come close to dying five times, in my 7 decades on this planet. 

Until my latest brush with death, I had never actually counted them. Nor had I connected how similar they were in some ways, and how very different they were in others.  I had also never really reflected on how each of these episodes had  shaped the way I chose to live my life, after experiencing them.

The first time, I was only 4 years old.  Enjoying the first tastes of independence, I raced my tricycle down the sidewalk, to the end of the block in our old neighborhood. 

Somehow, after meeting the end of the street, I ended-up head first in a deep ditch of  mud and water.  Undoubetdly, I was a panic-stricken little girl  and would have drowned in that ditch, had it not been for the neighbor girl that had witnessed my plunge. She yanked my head out of that hole, and saved my life that day.

Fast-forward 18 years...

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