This is Linda Frazee here to talk to you today about the Expectation/Disappointment Syndrome.
We have all been there. Imagining and expecting that something will be great and then, for a variety of reasons, it isn't. The fall from a high expectation to deep disappointment hurts! The higher the expectation, the more pain.
It happened to me just the other day. This last week was my birthday and I woke up feeling great. I took the day off, so I had all this free time. My husband and I decided we'd go out to breakfast. So we went out to get in the car to go to breakfast and guess what? The car didn't start.
Turns out the battery was dead. We only have one car, so we didn't have an immediate second option. After considering other options like Uber, calling a friend, or borrowing someone else's car, we decided to call AAA to get the car fixed. It was a fairly quick process but the time it took for the repair, it took up the time we could have been out to breakfast.
This is a minor...
For the last 40 years I have been working with people to achieve their goals and enjoy their life’s journey. That sounds easy, but for most people it is not! One of the reasons it is so difficult is that most people are not in the present moment. They are either thinking about the past or worrying about the future.
Over and over, I have heard the phrase from countless people, “I’ll be happy when.... Just fill in the blank: when I grow up, when I get married, when I get divorced, when I graduate, when I get a new job, house, dog, or a new relationship!”
It isn’t that there is anything wrong with realizing you need to move forward with new goals. The problem is that phrase of “I’ll be happy when,” repeated over and over it is like a negative affirmation. It robs you of the present moment and keeps you ungrounded as your focus is on the future! Physically, it would present like you were leaning forward, your whole body would be out...
Hi, this Linda Frazee at Authentic Wisdom.
For the last 40 years I have been working with people to successfully manage their emotions. That is a key concept of effective living in work and relationships. Today I want to talk to you about what to do when you get angry.
Everyone gets angry sometimes. Some people get angry often. So what is the best thing to do when you get angry?
Let’s start at the beginning. If your family of origin was healthy, anger was treated as one of many natural emotions that everyone has. As a child you would have been encouraged to express your anger in a non-disruptive way, release it and move on. If your family of origin was dysfunctional, your parents got mad at you for being angry, you might have been punished or just knew not to express your anger and even let anyone know you felt irritated. In that case, you learned to swallow your anger or displace those feelings on something or someone else.
How your parents handled their anger is...
How often have you wished you had paid more attention to the guideposts, or even red flags, along the way on your journey of life?
As human beings, we have a habit of noticing what we want, and ignoring or denying what we don’t want to address or deal with. Some people are more focused on only positive outcomes while others only notice the worst case scenarios!
My name is Linda Frazee and I have been coaching people for the last 40 years. That was my career before anyone called it "coaching!" In that capacity, I wish I had a dollar for every time someone said to me, 'I knew something wasn’t right and I did it anyway!' Or, 'I knew that idea was worth a million dollars and I wish I had pursued it!' Guideposts can be only milliseconds long of 'knowing' that pass quickly if we don’t pay attention.
Guideposts can be feelings, vague ideas that won’t go away, reappearing messages from divergent sources, or something you overhear that rings a bell in your head. It...
When you are wanting to do something new and different or reach for a new career, it may seem like there are countless insurmountable roadblocks. There may be something you have to do that is challenging or uncomfortable. You may even have to learn something new. But, underneath all of the things in the material world that are important, the biggest hurdle resides inside. That is...getting out of our own way!
My name is Linda Frazee and for the last 40 years I have been working with individuals to help them get out of their own way to achieve success and satisfaction.
How do we get in our own way? The first way is often subconscious. It is living out negative beliefs we picked up in childhood. Some of the most limiting beliefs we hold were never spoken out loud. They were demonstrated by our caretakers and extended family, teachers or religious leaders. When we are young, what others believe can be internalized as our truth. We don’t have the capacity to sort out what is true,...
Hello Linda Frazee, here with 40 year of experience of teaching and coaching individuals to manage stress and change in order to achieve success and satisfaction.
I want to talk to you today about the language of your body. Not your body language! That’s a different topic! Today is about the messages your body sends to you and the question of how well you are listening and responding.
Now more than ever it is vitally important to listen to the language of your body. Did you know our bodies have a unique language all our own? Have you experienced your body communicating with you? Of course you have! Simple messages like when you are hungry or have to go to the bathroom or are feeling sick are very clear communications from your body that you receive every day. Some of us tend to ignore even those simple messages from your body. But, there are more urgent messages that we ignore.
Just a few years ago I ignored some very serious messages my body was sending me. After about ten...
Hi everybody, it's Linda Frazee and I am the intuitive coach who helps you with what comes next!
Today I want to talk about managing conflict, about any situation that you're in and particularly the world situation at the moment.
So right now the whole world is debating about opening up the economy and whether that's too scary, and if you should stay home and be safe and manage your health.
And almost everybody I know is grappling with that same sort of problem. And when the government and the world is struggling, it's only natural that you would as well.
So how are you managing to do that? How are you faced with this dilemma and how are you trying to manage it for yourself and manage the sense of being conflict free inside with these two big things to decide?
Now obviously, if you have money and you have food and your pantry is stocked full, you don't have to worry about either of those things. It's an easier decision than for those who don't. And then if you're someone...
Hello everybody! I'm Linda Frazee and I've been working with individuals for 40 years, helping them go through change and stress and difficult things in their life.
This has been a difficult thing in many people's lives right now, almost for everybody's life, not only in our country, but around the world. So now it looks like it may begin to change a bit and we may be able to eventually get back to a semi-normal. Some States have gone faster than others.
So my question for you today is how will you emerge? And I don't mean with your mask and your gloves, but I do mean how will you feel and what will you take with you when you leave, and what are you excited about? I've heard different versions from many people.
Some people are going to be very excited to be with other people to get hugs, to go and see a neighbor, to actually have a group to go to a concert! They just can't wait. Other people are saying, I can't wait to go to a restaurant or just go shopping. I want to go in...
This is Linda Frazee with Authentic Wisdom
For may of us, it has been a month or more that we have been sequestered at home. Each week our ability to go out and about has become more restrictive. That’s great if you are in introvert, but if you are an extravert, you may be ready to climb the walls by now!
That’s called cabin fever! And it is NOT always easy to handle!
We hear and see all the unique and creative ways other people are Handling this time, but it still can be difficult.
Have you found yourself lethargic? Unable to get motivated for all those tasks you thought you would? Are you starting to snap at your housemates? Overeating? Misplacing items like your cell phone or water bottle? Do you find yourself angry that no one knows when this will end and we will be back to normal? Not to even mention worrying about your finances!
Those are just a few signs that you may be getting restless, and rightly so!
We all have to manage this current...
Hello everybody, this is Linda Frazee,
I want to talk to you today about Change, in part 3 of my series.
Little did I know that when I planned three different elements of change, that the third one would be when we were in change on steroids!
So here we are in the world where everything has changed.
So what do you do about that
Well, you might have noticed that there's like three basic reactions that people have to this. The first one is in 'denial'. This is not happening. I don't have to do anything about it. I don't want to social distance! They get irritated about it and they deny. You might have had some of that in the early stages.
The second one is sort of 'fascination' like, 'Well, isn't this interesting?!' This is a historic time in history and I'm just fascinated with what's going on. And isn't it crazy that everybody is out there buying toilet paper? So that's number two.
And then the third one is 'fear'. Now, I would imagine that everybody listening here and watching me...
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